I have worked with women for many years and am amazed at how many have no confidence, no sense of self-worth or self-determination. True, upbringing and environment play a large part but even more than that, being in second place is part of our heritage.
Although I do not believe in hereditary in the sense that if your parents and grandparents had bad eyesight or suffered from heart disease, than you will to, I do believe that social and environmental conditions do affect us down the ages and that one persons suffering can be transmitted to another.
Just to give you some examples, I had a case of a child who threw himself on the floor in terror when aircraft flew overhead. There was no logical reason why he should react this way. His grandparents, however, lived in London during the Second World War, as did his parents, and as their fear was firmly rooted in their system it was passed on to him.
This is a simple case. They can get very complicated and bring on physical symptoms that look like hereditary disease but the hereditary part is in the trauma itself, but for women in general, this trauma goes back more than 2,000 years.
Until the latter half of the 1800’s, women were put firmly into second place. Whether rich, poor or middle class, they had to give up all money and property to their husbands on their marriage and if treated cruelly had no means of escaping. If she managed to stash away some money and left her husband, she was breaking the law, no matter how brutally he had treated her. Women could be divorced for adultery but women had to prove adultery plus another cause, such as desertion, to be entitled to the same legal status. There were even cases where a woman was divorced for committing adultery and her children were awarded to her husband’s mistress! This was because divorced women were not allowed to raise their own children because they were not considered fit mothers.
Women were not allowed to say no to sex and their husbands could insist on their conjugal rights – one could not accuse one’s husband of rape although it happened far too often. In 1861, a law was passed which made abortion a criminal offence, even if performed by a qualified doctor as a life saving act.
When Marie Stopes started clinics for women to help them with contraception, the church was furious and so were men in general because it meant they had no control over their wives. Marie Stopes’ books were branded as obscene and the authorities even tried to put her in prison. At some birth control clinics, women workers were pelted with eggs, windows were smashed and premises attacked.
Education was also a farce. Women could attend university but often were only allowed to attend classes for literature and the arts. Eventually they were allowed to sit exams but would be awarded a certificate whereas men, taking the same course would be given a degree.
Women artists had to sign their pictures with men’s names, women authors had to do the same. The Bronte sisters, signed their surname as Bell with ambiguous christian names leading people to believe they were men. George Elliott who wrote the Mill on the Floss and Silas Marner was in fact a woman, now widely known as Mary Ann Evans.
Looking at the foregoing you can see how repressed women were. They were not allowed:
• A decent education unless they went privately and even this was limited.
• They had no independent financial means.
• They had no control over their own bodies and were forced to have children even if it meant their eventual death in childbirth or from syphilis given to them by unfaithful husbands
So this is our heritage. Isn’t it any wonder that so many of us cannot stand up for ourselves?
I had a neighbour whose child had serious bowel problems which years of visits to the hospital had not alleviated let alone cured. She knew what I did and I knew what was wrong with her son and could have helped, but her husband did not believe in natural medicine. I could see doom ahead if the matter wasn’t treated soon and told her that she needed to take him to a natural medicine practitioner, it didn’t matter if it wasn’t me, but if she didn’t, things could get very, very nasty. She thanked me but said her husband would go nuts if he found out. It disturbed me profoundly that she could not stand up to her husband and that the result could even be the death of her young son.
So, if you have problems standing up for yourself, you now know one of the causes. It may be all of it or only a part, either way, there is help because the trauma we have inherited from the past can be dissolved homoeopathically.
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